Sex-positive spaces present marvellous opportunities for women to explore sexuality--to open up and try out new things in a safe environment, and to break out of the dominant culture, which pressures women have to behave in very particular ways when they come into an intimate relationship or encounter.
Georgia Munrow believes that women in our society are taught to be really afraid: "When you're growing up, you're constantly taught that you've got to be careful because there are men out there who want to attack you, want to hurt you, take from you. While it is good to be aware of that, this often shuts women down from enjoying their sexual energy and enjoying being free. Feeling restricted is so difficult to get yourself out of, if you've had it your whole life. Being in supportive spaces that feel safe, that support people to take care of themselves, but are also making sure that everyone knows the rules and that if anything goes wrong, people are there to support that...I recommend it. You'll get so much from it. I can't describe."
Morgana Muses is a porn producer and performer, who came to it later in life at the age of 47. She says the most important takeaway of her work is: "There is no expiration date on your sexuality and on your exploration of your sexuality." And, of course, this is true for men too. She supports the School of Really Good Sex because "it provides a safe space for people to explore various aspects of their sexuality, where they might not have the opportunity in their day-to-day lives". We've been inspired by her, and have taken to heart her suggestion that our festivals shouldn't happen only once a year, but quarterly, so people don't have to wait a whole year between them. "Coming along to this festival once is not enough. It should happen regularly," she says.
In the opening ceremony of all our festivals, we practice learning to say "no" and receiving "no" gracefully. We also practice asking for what we want and assuming different roles in given interactions.
Peter Banki and Sarah Roffey