Our Policy on Safety, Privacy and Informed Consent
It is our intention to create a safe container for learning and exploration in a sex-positive space. Unlike what some may think, a sex positive space is not one long orgy. Its deeper purpose is to provide opportunities for emotional and ethical transformation as well as the chance to feel more alive and free. This happens when we find ourselves in a space where our desires and our bodies are not seen as something bad or taboo, but permitted, reflected and thought-about in a supportive and informed environment. During workshops and classes, we will play, eat together, learn, experiment, talk, open up and share deeply.
To ensure that everyone who comes to our festivals takes part in an atmosphere of informed consent, all participants must attend the Festival Opening, during which we will provide a framework which will enable participants to express their wishes and boundaries in clear ways, and gracefully to accept refusal. We will look at questions such as impulse control, how to deal with unpleasant interactions, as well as partner choice. We will also provide necessary tools about how to read "body consent", which supports verbal communication. People who act in a non-consensual fashion, or who make others feel uncomfortable by virtue of their behaviour will be first warned and then if they persist, they will be asked to leave. People who are unduly aggressive to other participants or staff will also be asked to leave.
In addition to attending the Festival Opening, re require that all participants sign a copy of our Agreement and Waiver of Liability Form upon arrival at the festival. This agreement includes a commitment on everyone's part to protect the privacy of everyone involved. This includes not sharing identifiable information about other participants and not taking and/or sharing photos or videos during the festival/workshops without their explicit permission. Free free to contact us if privacy is a particular concern for you. Please also have a look at the Agreement and Waiver of Liability Form. It will be emailed to all participants personally after booking and copies will also be provided at the event for participants to sign.
We believe in a dignity of risk approach to sex education and exploration rather than one which is risk averse. This means that rather than insisting that people practice certain activities in certain ways, we believe in respecting each individual's autonomy and self-determination to make choices for themselves. While all care is taken to make the space as safe as possible, we cannot guarantee that you will not experience any emotional disturbance or discomfort during the festival. Often this discomfort is part and parcel of finding oneself in a new environment or learning something new. Many years of experience have taught us that the most sure way to keep all activity at the festival safe, fun and consensual is to empower participants to be risk aware and to take responsibility for themselves first.
Ultimately, the School of Really Good Sex has a dual purpose. On the one hand, it is to provide a space where people can feel more confident and free to explore and express their desires beyond the conventional limits of our 'sex negative' culture. On the other hand, its purpose is also to grow your emotional maturity. Throughout the festival, there will be workshops and spaces available for participants, which are specifically designed to help you metabolise the emotional turbulence that can result from finding oneself in a 'sex-positive' environment, which for many is unfamiliar.
For more information about the festival, please read our Frequently Asked Questions.