Expansion: Workshop and Play Party
Apr
29
2:00 PM14:00

Expansion: Workshop and Play Party

Expansion is a monthly wholistic combined workshop and play party in Sydney, which will take place next on Sunday April 29 from 2pm-8pm in Darlinghurst (Exact address given on Registration). 

Our aim is to provide a space where you can experience the best of what a play party has to offer, while avoiding the usual pitfalls.

It combines a party education and navigation workshop (2-4pm) followed by the party itself (4-8pm). In the workshop, we will answer your questions and discuss whatever anxieties you may have associated with going to a play party, as well as give you helpful information about how to ask to ask for what you want, protect your boundaries, and go at a pace that's right for you, as well as clear information about play party etiquette. 

The play party itself will be a held space where different stations will be set up where people will lead various activities which you can try out and experience. These will include sex and kink related activities, as well as a strong emphasis on all kinds of creative play (such as dance, massage, role play). We encourage you to play sometimes from a place of attraction and sometimes from a place of curiosity, openness and generosity.

BYO. Non-alcoholic beverages and snacks are also provided.

NB: Only people who have done the workshop will be admitted to the party. The party has a no effort no entry dress code. It will not be acceptable to come in jeans and a t-shirt. Even if you have paid, if you only have casual clothes to wear at the party, we will not grant you entry. Should we deem that what you have on is not appropriate for the space, you may be invited to wear something chosen for you! For ideas about what is appropriate  play party wear, please go to Gallery SerpentineSax FetishMax Black or The Costume Shop

Sunday 29 April, Workshop and Play Party, 2-8pm @ Darlinghurst (Exact Address Given on Registration)

Cost $60 (plus b/fee); Return attendees $35 (plus b/fee). (It is only possible to pay at the door, if we have confirmed your attendance via email at info@reallygoodsex.net).

Expansion is hosted by Peter Banki, Ph.D, the founder and director of the Festival of Really Good Sex and Ira Zev, Co-founder of the EroticArt Project.  

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Ethics Sexuality & Photography
May
13
2:00 PM14:00

Ethics Sexuality & Photography

How do we photograph sexuality and the other from a loving place? A rejecting place? When is it objectivification? When is it pathologised or criminalized?

When does photography allow the subject to speak? 

Come and Join us for a panel discussion about the Ethics of Sexuality and Photography. 

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On the panel will be: 

Forensic PsychologistTim Watson-Munro, author of Dancing with Demons 

Journalist, Gordon McComiskie from the Daily Telegraph 

Photographer and curator, Ellen Hewitt

Photographer, Sarah Malone

The afternoon will also include an exhibition of photos from Sarah Malone and Gordon McComiskie.

Tickets are $20 ($10 low income).

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Expansion: Workshop and Play Party
May
20
2:00 PM14:00

Expansion: Workshop and Play Party

Expansion is a monthly wholistic combined workshop and play party in Sydney, which will take place next on Sunday May 20 from 2pm-8pm in Darlinghurst (Exact address given on Registration). 

Our aim is to provide a space where you can experience the best of what a play party has to offer, while avoiding the usual pitfalls.

It combines a two hour party-navigation workshop (2-4pm) followed by the party itself (4-8pm) as well as an optional aftercare session on the Monday night (May 21) from 6-7:30pm in North Bondi. In the workshop, we will answer your questions and discuss whatever anxieties you may have associated with going to a play party, as well as give you helpful information about how to ask to ask for what you want, protect your boundaries, and go at a pace that's right for you, as well as clear information about play party etiquette. During the aftercare the next day, you will be able to process what you have experienced the night before in a supportive environment with others. The session will also include some nurturing bodywork.

The play party itself will be a held space where different stations will be set up where people will lead various activities which you can try out and experience. These will include sex and kink related activities, as well as a strong emphasis on all kinds of creative play (such as dance, massage, role play). 

 BYO. Non-alcoholic beverages and snacks are also provided.

NB: Only people who have done the workshop will be admitted to the party. The party has a no effort no entry dress code. It will not be acceptable to come in jeans and a t-shirt. Even if you have paid, if you only have casual clothes to wear at the party, we will not grant you entry. Should we deem that what you have on is not appropriate for the space, you may be invited to wear something chosen for you! For ideas about what is appropriate  play party wear, please go to Gallery SerpentineSax FetishMax Black or The Costume Shop

Sunday 20 May, Workshop and Play Party, 2-8pm @ Darlinghurst (Exact Address Given on Registration)

Cost $75 (plus b/fee); Return attendees $35 (plus b/fee). (It is only possible to pay at the door, if we have confirmed your attendance via email at info@reallygoodsex.net).

Expansion is hosted by Peter Banki, Ph.D, the founder and director of the Festival of Really Good Sex and Ira Zev, Co-founder of the EroticArt Project.  

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Sex and Madness
Jul
1
2:00 PM14:00

Sex and Madness

Art and literature have recognized the connection between sexuality and madness for millennia. Yet, in the modern Western discourses, both within the field of adult sex education and psy-care system (e.g. psychiatry, psychology, psychotherapy), the two are more than uneasy companions.

People who experience intense and enduring social and emotional distress (labelled as ‘mental illness’) often don’t have satisfying sex lives. People with psychiatric diagnoses are often assumed (by mental health professionals and the mainstream) to be either inappropriately hyper-sexual or asexual. 

Or, from another angle: Lust and longing may be overpowering to the point of making people ‘lose their mind’. A loss of a lover, an experience of infidelity or grappling with one's non-normative sexuality can plunge one into despair, breakdown or into fear and trembling.

This workshop will offer an invitation to bring sexuality and madness together. It will make space to think madness/distress alongside sex and sexuality; to think WITH sex and madness.

We will guide you through a series of writing, discussion-based and reading exercises as well as body-based and spatial interventions borrowed from acting, bodywork and dance training. Thus you will have an opportunity to reflect on your assumptions, feelings and personal and professional experiences at the intersections of madness and sexuality, as well as explore, in a contained and supported space, responses and behaviours that play with the question of what is normal/sane/rational/permissible. In the second part of the workshop, we will co-create and experience “The Asylum” - a nurturing and stimulating experiential space where we can explore being 'mad' in a way that is perhaps more spacious or open to all diversity.

The workshop will take place in Darlinghurst. Exact address given on registration. 

Facilitators: Natalia Je & Sarah Ro. This workshop is a collaboration between the School of Really Good Sex and Off the Wall Inc which produces the Critical Perspectives on Madness Reading Group.

WHO FOR: EVERYONE with an interest in or experience of the topic, including people with lived experiences of emotional distress or extreme states, people who support others in professional or non-professional capacities, sexuality educators, researchers, artists etc.

There will be no nudity or explicit sexual activity. There will be invitations to touch. All exercises are optional and it’s always possible to sit out, pause or leave.

If you’re dealing or living with restrictions (e.g. physical, intellectual or psychosocial impairments or variances) or neurodiversities, have concerns about aspects of the workshops and would like to come, please contact us to discuss ways in which we might assist.

Spaces will be limited to 15, please register fast.

COST: By donation (to cover the rental costs).

WHAT TO BRING: water bottle, pen and writing pad.

WHAT TO WEAR: something you will feel comfortable in.

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Exploring Sex and Disability - A Celebration
Oct
7
2:00 PM14:00

Exploring Sex and Disability - A Celebration

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Exploring Sex and Disability provides an experiential play space for people with functional diversity and their friends, allies and supporters to learn about and explore different aspects and variations of sexuality. This is one day event happening at East Sydney Community Arts Centre,  34 Burton St, Darlinghurst NSW 2010 on Sunday, 12th November. It includes a program of talks, performances, films and experiential workshops. This is the first time that an event such as this has taken place in Australia. It brings together artists, disability activists and sex educators around this topic.

Our intention is to provide a consensual, safe, informed and inclusive space, which allows people with functional diversity to explore and learn about sexuality.

Event Director: Peter Banki, Ph.D

Curatorial Advisor: Oliver Morton-Evans

The 2018 program will be announced soon. Check out the 2017 program here.

Important Information

1. WHO IS THIS EVENT FOR? The event is for people who experience disabilities, their friends, allies and carers. It is open to people with all kinds of disabilities, including intellectual and physical disabilities, neuro-diversity, functional-diversity and psycho-social disabilities.

2. IS THIS SPECIFICALLY A HETEROSEXUAL EVENT? No, this event is open to people of all genders and sexual orientations. Heterosexual people are welcome to attend as are people who are not heterosexual.

3. WILL THERE BE NUDITY? No, for this introductory event all activity will be clothes on.

4. WHAT IF I NEED A SUPPORT WORKER OR FRIEND TO HELP ME TO ATTEND? You are welcome to bring a support person or a friend with you, if you need. Please let us know when you book. Friends or support workers will also need to buy a ticket to pay for lunch.

5. HOW WILL PEOPLE BE PAIRED FOR ACTIVITIES? If you have come with a partner, you can engage exclusively with them. Otherwise everyone will be paired at random with different people during activities and get to chat to different people during discussions.

6. WHAT IF I DO NOT WISH TO TAKE PART IN A GIVEN ACTIVITY? There is no obligation for anyone to do anything. You participate at what ever level feels right for you. There are no expectations.

7. WHAT SHOULD I BRING? Please bring a water bottle if you need. Lunch will be provided.

8. WHAT SHOULD I WEAR? Loose fitting comfortable clothes are appropriate for most activites. If you wish to wear something more sexy later on in the day, you are invited to bring a change of clothes.

9. WHAT IF I HAVE SPECIFIC REQUIREMENTS TO ALLOW ME TO ATTEND? Please let us know as soon as possible and we will endeavour to cater for them.

10. WHO IS CATERING FOR THE EVENT AND WHAT FOOD WILL BE SERVED? The event will be catered by Decadent Catering. The menu will be announced shortly.

OUR POLICY ON SAFETY AND CONSENT

It is our intention to create a space that is as safe as possible and where all activity is consensual. During the day we will be doing exercises which teach people to express their wishes and boundaries in a clear way. There will also be exercises which will help people to learn to read "body consent", which supports verbal communication. There will also be trained staff on hand who have experience with working with people with disabilities and who will intervene if any behaviour risks to be non-consensual or unsafe.

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Kink and the Conscious Body - Two Day Workshop
Oct
13
to Oct 14

Kink and the Conscious Body - Two Day Workshop

A regular body practice is an essential ingredient for exploring the full spectrum of our sexuality. If you cultivate this awareness, you will be able to hold your partners' interest more deeply and for a much longer time. And, moreover, your play will be much safer. 

The approach taken by this workship is to explore kink on the basis of body awareness and body research. Half of the day will be dedicated to practices such as yoga, body-mind centering (BMC), bodywork and contact improvisation. These techniques will provide a common body language and groundwork. They will also be investigated in terms of their differences and similarities to kink practices, such as bondage, pain play, power exchange, sub-space and trance erotic states. These techniques will be introduced in the other half of the workshop. This part of the work will propose emotional and creative opportunities. Extra time is reserved each day for specific, personal explorations, alone, in couples and smaller groups. 


TOPICS INCLUDE: submission and dominance as practices of creative improvisation and playfulness, beautiful and 'authentic' dominance, turning pain into pleasure, sub-space and trance erotic states, love in the context of a kinky relationship, martial arts principles as applied to rope, spanking and impact play, ritual and ceremony as a way to hold and channel erotic energy and separate it from the mundane, as well as aftercare and relaxation.

WORKSHOP INTENSITY: Medium (there will be no extreme play such as blood, humiliation, etc.)

WHO FOR: The curious and the brave of all sexualities and genders. Even though this workshop is body based, there is absolutely no expectation concerning the age or kind of body you should have. However, some prior experience in dance, yoga, tantra or other body work is strongly advised. 

WILL THERE BE PAIR-WORK AND GROUP WORK? Yes.

HOW WILL PAIRING BE DONE? Couples are welcome. People arriving as singles (or couples that like to play with other people) will be paired randomly for various activities. Please note: all exercises can be taken only to the level that's right for you at the time.

CAN YOU WORK EXCLUSIVELY WITH ONE PARTNER? Yes, if you arrive with them. (You may also bump into someone you know, or meet someone, and decide to do activities with them).

NUDITY: This is a clothes-on workshop. Some participants may choose to work with bare skin (and possibly buttocks) for some exercises but this is not an expectation. Any nudity will be low-level and not explicit.

EROTIC CONTENT: The workshop is primarily about various forms of sexual expression.

COMMITMENT: You may sit out of any activity, or participate only to a level that's right for you.

RATIO OF DISCUSSION TO EXPERIENTIAL: About 30/70 percent.

BRING: A water bottle is advisable. Tea, coffee and morning and afternoon snacks will be provided. Each day there is a one and a half hour lunch break. 

WEAR: For most activities loose fitting comfortable clothes are appropriate. Bring a costume or two for the Sunday ritual.

This workshop will be led by Peter Banki, Ph.D. 

Dr. Peter Banki is founder and curator of the Sydney Festival of Really Good Sex and since 2011 host of Schwelle Sydney. For over the last 10 years he has worked to integrate bodywork, dance and martial arts with sexuality and kink. This philosophy of integration is the guiding principle behind the Sydney Festival of Really Good Sex. He has practiced Iyengar yoga uninteruptedly since 1999 and has studied dance with Annetta Luce, Daniel Lepkoff (one of the founders of contact improvisation) and Felix Ruckert.

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An Afternoon of Kissing and Cunnilingus
Apr
22
2:00 PM14:00

An Afternoon of Kissing and Cunnilingus

Cultivate a gentle, civil and carnal experience with this most erotic of delights.

Kissing and cunnilingus are some of the greatest gifts one can receive as a woman. They are also some of the greatest skills to have, if one wants to please a woman. And yet where would you ever have the opportunity to learn these skills? In this workshop you will have a unique opportunity to get up close and personal with this juicy topic, in a loving, supportive and consensual environment.

In the first part of the workshop we will explore approaches to kissing including elements such as presence, attention, jaw release, integration of the spine and sensuality. We will then  work with kissing installations where you will have the opportunity to experiment and play with this most delightful of activities.

In the second part of this workshop, there will be an opportunity for women to talk about how they like to be orally pleasured. For oral pleasurers there will also be an opportunity to discuss their experiences with this form of sexual play. We will then move into solo practice of various techniques. There will be a demonstration of cunnilingus as well as opportunities to practice cunnilingus itself.

This workshop is open to singles and couples regardless of gender or orientation. There is no obligation to engage in any activity.

If you come with your partner, you are welcome to engage only with them.

Single men and women are most welcome to come, however, if you are a single man and you only wish to give cunnilingus, there is no guarantee that there will be person with a vulva who will be available to practice with you for this part of the workshop. 

This workshop will be taught by Peter Banki and Ira Zev

If you have any questions, please contact us at info@reallygoodsex.net

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