Sex puts us in touch with death because it puts us in touch with our vulnerability and our finitude. Death is usually regarded as the opposite of eroticism. Similarly eroticism very often sold in our culture in such a way that we do not acknowledge the role in it of grief, loss and separation. We believe that sex and death have a profound connection to one another. What could be a sex-positive attitude to death? And what could be a death-positive attitude to sex?
These are questions we will explore on 23rd June in Darlinghurst, Sydney (exact address given on registration). There will be workshops and performances during the whole day.
Workshops and Ceremonies
Get into the mood of the festival, meet the presenters, learn about verbal and body consent, and how best to navigate. To ensure that everyone who comes to the festival takes part in an atmosphere of informed consent, all participants must attend the Opening Ceremony.
The proximity to death is not necessarily negative, it can be that which gives us the feeling of being most alive. Death touches us not simply as “a fact of life”, but also as a fantasmatic object of desire. Many people, consciously or unconsciously, search for limit-experiences for the intensity and thrill of being on the threshold of something that gives them the feeling of being close to death. In this workshop, we’ll explore how certain erotic practices encroach the fantasmatic thresholds of death and dying. You’ll be given the opportunity to try them. All activity will be grounded in informed consent.
During the preparation we will experiment with different roles, ideas and concepts for the play installation. We will provide a frame where you can decide what roles and scenarios you wish to explore. Please bring any objects or materials you may like to use in the play part of the workshop. Nudity is possible.
The Kinky Funeral is an experimental role play which explores the links between eroticism and death and the fantasies associated with it. We will explore different erotic practices that bring us into proximity with the idea of death. These include sensory deprivation, passivity, restraint, body bags, breath play, knife play, electro play, etc.
You are invited to bring a costume which corresponds to a character that can be integrated into the role play, such as an undertaker, celebrant, corpse, dying patient, doctor, palliative care nurse, hangman, executioner, grieving widow or family member, priest, etc.
The Closing Ceremony with be an opportunity to come together and process as a whole group what we've experienced. We will be providing tea and snacks. This will also be opportunity for you to get some nurturing aftercare and storytelling.